Andrea and Adam Krum are expecting their first baby on August 31st. The couple lives in Danville and has been together for 11 years, since age 16, and married for the last two years. With her due date quickly approaching, they are making the transition from kids to adults.
When was the first time you knew you wanted to be a mom?
After being together for so long, it finally came up in discussion after we were married. Adam was all about it! I eventually warmed up to it and started to get excited. I had always been curious about what it would be like, seeing pregnant people and newborn babies, but it wasn’t a “that-has-to-be-me” kind of thing. I guess we were just waiting for the right time, and it all fell into place.
How did you decide on the name Daphne?
After we found out we were pregnant, we threw out names but nothing stuck. It was, “Nah, I don’t like it,” or it was just OK. … Adam’s sister’s friend is named Daphne, and I told him I had always liked that name after she came up in conversation. He said he did too. That decided it!
What’s been the biggest challenge with your pregnancy?
Well, it wasn’t being pregnant in the hottest summer months. That part actually hasn’t been too bad. My ribs are expanding and pushing things I never knew I had before! I have intercostal neuralgia, which is an inflamed nerve in my chest wall. It began at 29 weeks. It’s a constant pain, just strong enough to let you know it’s there. Because you’re not able to have NSAIDS (nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs) to reduce the swelling, there’s no way to treat it except apparently through clichés like, “Hang in there,” “You’re almost there,” and “It’s worth it in the end.”
What are you looking forward to the most with the arrival of baby Daphne?
I can’t wait to see what she looks like, hearing her cry, and figuring out her personality. Will she be more like me, or Adam, or completely different? Who knows?!
What’s the most unexpected thing you’ve experienced so far in your pregnancy?
At 22 weeks we found out that Daphne has a unilateral cleft lip. My initial reaction was devastation: “Oh no, my baby’s not perfect!” I was a hot mess. But Adam handled it very well. He tried to assure me that it would be OK. (He wasn’t much help with that though).
I just needed time to process it. She is perfect. It’s just another thing to deal with, and it definitely could have been much worse. I am most nervous about the surgery—general anesthesia at 3 months is scary. In the end I am hoping it will teach her to be humble and compassionate toward others less fortunate. We have a care team that is already planning her surgery and recovery so everything will be fine!
There’s still a million looming questions:
How bad will it hurt? Will she have 10 fingers and toes? Will my experience be one of those horror stories (think 20- pound baby!), a breeze, or somewhere in between? Will she have birth marks? When will her birthday be? Will I deliver naturally or through a C-section?